Monday, 24 February 2020

SWEETEST, ABUSED KILLER DRUG IN VARSITIES

Hey guys welcome to my second release of another inspirational post. This post is about relationships and campus students. Hope will enjoy and get inspired. Comments and critics are also welcomed.

   SWEETEST, ABUSED KILLER DRUG IN VARSITIES

Love, they say is a beautiful thing. But this phrase only applies when one finds unconditional and true love. Love is best enjoyed when it's shared between two people who really understand and appreciate each other. While love is experienced among all age groups, the youths takes the fun to its climax. Especially those in universities. It is in such learning institutions that majority of youths form relationships based on love which eventually become long lasting to the extent of marriage.

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Although  campus relationships are sweet and lead to marriage, not all of them end up being successful. Such kind of relationships are those build on the foundation of greed, lust and mistrust. Such attributes lead to failed relationships which end up with  expensive prices to pay. In simple terms, it has resulted into toxic relationships.

For instance, abusive relationships are considered toxic. Many students in campuses are involved in abusive relationships but fail to address the issue in the pretext of love. The abuse is revealed in both physical and verbal forms. The physical abuse comes with one of the partner torturing his/her other half by beating them, thus causing physical pain. Mostly the victims of such abuses are the female counterparts because they consider themselves a weaker species and can't fight against the male. Verbal abuse comes with a partner shouting and using abusive words against their partners. This won't cause physical but rather emotional pain. The victims of this abuse are specifically the men, since most of them are 'weak' when it comes to word of mouth.

Due to greed for money, most campus students especially ladies, engage in illicit relationships with old, married men all in the name of SPONSORS. Ladies engage in such relationships so a to facilitate their bills and maintain their expensive lifestyles. Though, such kind of relationships don't end well. Some end in death cases. For instance the case of Sharon Otieno, a student at Rongo University, who was allegedly killed by her 'sponsor' fiance after a  love gone sour.

Lust and mistrust are also other causes of toxic relationships. Most of the youths nowadays no longer get into relationships because of love but rather to satisfy their bodily pleasures. This has made them engage in various relationships with numerous spouses. In this cases, one of the partners finds himself/herself in the receiving end since he/she had genuine love for the other party. This results into heartbreaks and feelings of betrayal which are the leading cause of deaths in campuses. Many students have committed suicide  just because they can't stand the pain of betrayal from the one they love the most. We have heard of many cases where students lifeless bodies have been discovered in their rooms or even in rivers.

Betrayal in love also leads one to commit murder in search of revenge. Not long ago we have had cases of lovers killing their partners because they were entangled in a love triangle. Ivy Wangeci, a medical student at Moi University,is one illustration of students murdered by their fiance's due jealousy and betrayal.

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Campus relationship are not build on true love rather they are build on a foundation of deceit hence many students end up being heartbroken more than 5 times in their campus life cycle.Toxic relationships in campus have resulted in establishment of a phrase that consoles their hearts and you will hear them shouting "Just be a wh**e it will all end in tears".

From the above, it's high time students understand that relationships are not a child's play hence should not engage in one of not ready to do so. If one sees that a relationship is intoxicating, for instance, an abusive one, though not easy but walk away. Parents should also take up the responsibility of guiding the children especially on matters to do with love. These will help save lives and one's sanity.

Author
Kageha Deborah.

25 comments:

  1. This is a reality.truth that few can bear.its life to those who will adhere to it.we are proud of you my Daughter.keep on informing the community.

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    1. Haiya,this is so sweet dear keep the spirit high you are going places

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  2. True parents should guide their children in order to avoid this problems

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    1. Yeah coz many parents shy away from such topics

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  3. We all need someone to guide us though it's nice

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  4. Well put. It's hype that comes with campus life that lead to all this. Imagine being free all the watchful eye of your parents, no strict adherence to timelines as in highschool. The sudden FREEDOM students get in universities does them more harm than good sometimes.
    It's a kin to giving a homeless guy /street urchin a key to the city.

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  5. The fate that befell some students (Sharon & Ivy) is as result of their heightened sensitivity to the luxuries of life.
    Dating a fellow student but since he can't find your campus-acquired lifestyle, they opt for older or financially buoyant men to fill the void.

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  6. At least you've reminded me of Ivy wangechi
    It's been long

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  7. Very interesting article. Your observations are real and eye opening.

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  8. Amazing minds at work.You are killing what would have killed many including you yourself.

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